“Nikki, Nicole, Nik … you should really stop cussing as much”.
I cuss. It’s a part of my vernacular. Moving on.
You know what common four-letter word I find EXTREMELY offensive? B*sy.
The word “busy” has exploded over the past few years as we all have frequently succumbed to the “epidemic of unending busyness”.
Being busy, in its purest form, is not inherently a bad thing. Busy can mean, well, that you are indeed, actually busy, or it can mean you're just filling your time with senseless things that do not bring value to your current situation or goals.
“Busy” becomes problematic when we use the word as a crutch to get out of things we maybe, actually, probably should be doing instead. Or, perhaps, we use the word to create a facade of a life of extravagance, wherein you are so important that no one dare ask or speak to you because you’re just SO. BUSY.
Have you ever taken a look at each hour of your day to analyze where the minutes of your life are going?
Your priorities are not priorities unless your daily habits directly reflect what you want to be doing. What are you "busy" actually DOING?
Busy is a wild card word for “bullshitting”. I’m still working diligently to remove this word from my very own vocabulary and so one day, a little over a year ago, I decided to create my “ideal day” and live each day according to that.
For myself, I break my life down into the following categories:
- Mental Health
When I really thought about what my ideal day consisted of, it was pretty simple. These are the things that I wanted to include every single day:
- Drink lots of water
- Strength train - do some active movement on my “rest day”
- Stretch & Mobility routine
- Nutrition stays on point - this is not a “diet”, this is an engrained way that I eat as well as knowledge of food, nutrients, my body, and wanting to always feel good. This doesn’t take much thought anymore.
- Listen to a podcast on business/entrepreneurship
- Listen to a podcast on mindfulness, self development, etc.
- Work my 9-5 (from 6:30am - 3pm)
- Work on From the Roots Fitness for at LEAST 4 hours per day - and even more on the weekends
- Eat dinner with my wife
- Read for at LEAST a half hour of a non-fiction book
- Read a fitness or nutrition study
- Check in with family/friends
- On weekends (and a weeknight here and there), spend time with family/friends when possible
That’s it. If I do every single one of those things every day, I feel accomplished, I feel happy and I feel as if I am stepping closer and closer to my overall life goals.
The effects of "busy" are pretty severe if you dare to read the side effects:
- loss of motivation
- loss of honesty
- gain in talking the talk; lack in walking the walk
- thinking you’re doing something when you’re actually just… not.
- blowing people off because you’re wrapped up in your own busyness
Grab a pen and a piece of paper and document a typical day for yourself. Where is the time going? More importantly, where is your ENERGY going? Time is irrelevant when you think in “energy” expenditure. After documenting a typical day, write out your “ideal” day and what that might look like (given your current situation). I’m sure we’d all like to not work at jobs we don’t like and vacation all of the time, but be realistic. If you have certain goals, where can you carve out time to execute the actions necessary to get there? Live that ideal day every day and I can guarantee the momentum alone will lunge you closer to your goals.